Finding A Friend In Isolation

I am the wife of a wonderful husband of 12 yrs. I am 39 and happy with where I live and with my marriage. The problem is that we moved here 12 yrs ago and I have yet been able to make a friend. We have tried 3 different churches and the people here are very "grouped up". They have lived here their entire lives or they are related. New people don't fit in. We live in a rural community and I have yet to meet a woman of my age who does not work. The women here are just to busy with work, husbands and children. Fitting in a new relationship doesn't seem to be on their mind. My husband and I made the choice that I would stay at home. So I don't have the work environment option. He is a firefighter and with his schedule he is at home most of the time and finding a job would mean that we would not see much of each other and he would be home alone. We have a great relationship and work well together. (We are constantly busy doing something). I feel isolated here and my heart aches for a friend or a couple. Growing up my family was constantly on the move (military) and we never lived long enough anywhere to make close friends. Another issue is that I had a beautiful, sweet little boy with my first husband. At the age 5 he died from cancer. I have heard women whisper I can't be her friend -what would I say to her. But I am not sensitive about this. I know where my son is. I am just like any other woman. I laugh, love and yes I sometimes even cry. So tell me what's my options - is there a friend out there for someone like me? Don't get me wrong. I married my best friend but sometimes a woman just needs a woman to talk to.

Lynne

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